Batterers often blame their abusive behaviour on drugs, alcohol, stress, their own childhood abuse, or you, as their partner. If your partner’s behaviour makes you feel unsafe, YOU ARE NOT TO BLAME. If you have experienced abuse, you may feel isolated, afraid, shame and hopelessness. This is normal and okay. You are not responsible for someone else’s violence and no one has the right to hurt you, even if that person is a spouse, partner or a family member.
The instant a partner hits you or threatens to hit you – the minute you feel fear – get away immediately. Call us at 943 CICC (2422), or go to a friend’s house. There is help available and at the CICC we offer safe shelter for you and your children.
If your partner has hurt you or if you are afraid, you have the right to call the police. What he or she is doing is illegal, whether or are married or not.
An order of protection means that the batterer is breaking the law if he or she comes after you again. Call our Crisis Line at 943 CICC (2422) to get more information.
Family violence affects all of us – adults, elders, teens and children. It occurs between people of a races, nationalities, economic classes, ages, physical abilities and education levels. It takes place in all types of intimate relationships – heterosexual, same-sex, marriage, dating and former relationships. It can also happen in relationships between two people who are not intimate partners, such as an elder adult and his or her caregiver. It can happen to anyone. If you are a victim or a survivor of family violence, you are not alone. We can help.